Sexual issues are shied away from in the church. God created sex (male & female) and we should not be afraid of the subject. I’ve been counseling sexual abuse emotional healing for 27 years. One in three females and one in four males are the numbers in reported cases. (What about all the un-reported cases?) Many males turn to porn after being sexually abused. As a Sexual Addiction Recovery Facilitator, I also counsel porn addiction.
The majority of sexual abuse happens in childhood (even currently) and most bury the hurt and pain for many years. The abuse touches every area of life – spiritual self, emotions, self-value, relationships, marriage, etc. Even though the person has salvation, they feel distant from God, unlovable, worthless, helpless and hopeless. Some carry the guilt, shame, and blame that belongs to the perpetrator. Some ask, “Where was God when I was being abused?” God’s Word/Truth has the answers to transform hurting hearts to healed hearts.
If you are a survivor of sexual abuse/assault, God wants you to know that you must release the shame and blame back to the perpetrator of your abuse. You did not cause the abuse. The abuse happened because there was evil in the heart of the abuser. Perpetrators are usually people that you know and trust. They can be in the family, friends or even associated with the church.
(Special note: Sexual abuse/assault must be reported. We must not hide abuse/assault in the family or the church. When someone threatens or intimidates against exposing this evil, that is evil itself. This is all the more reason for exposure of this evil. If the abuse/assault is not revealed, the perpetrator will almost always have more victims. Everyone must wake up to this reality. Many people who are sexual abusers are also addicted to pornography. The professionals who are fighting against sex trafficking say that porn is at the root of sex trafficking. Porn addiction has infiltrated the church!)
God gives all people
God loves you and you can have emotional healing by renewing your mind with God’s truth – Romans 12: 1 & 2. Refuse to allow the past to define who you are today in Christ. You are God’s special treasure/possession – 1 Peter 2:9. Read, The Door of Hope by Jan Frank. Read, Unwanted by Jay Stringer – how sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing.
I provide God-based counseling nationwide for pastors/lay people. Read ‘about ministry’ page on www.carolclemans.org for counseling/teaching details.
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My 50 years of Bible teaching and God-based counseling for 27 years gives me a foundation of God’s wisdom to share as a conduit that is unique from others. My first 10 years of pastoral counseling was for Bishop Kenneth Haney @ Christian Life Center. I taught six years @ Christian Life College under Dr. Daniel Segraves six subjects including Principles of Counseling & Marriage & Family. I give God all the glory!
I break the silence in the church on sexual issues teaching Sexual Purity for All Ages seminars. People are empowered to make godly choices when taught God’s truth on all ‘silent issues’ – we must be silent no more!
www.carolclemans.org – (636) 448-0121 – book: God’s Design for Marriage or eBook on amazon.com – teach Marriage & Family Seminars. Married 48 ½ years to Rev. Harold Clemans. Mins. Ref: Pastor Daniel Batchelor, Dupo, IL.