In my ministry of Bible teaching (50 yrs.) and counseling nationwide (25 yrs.), people contact me that are hurting emotionally, spiritually and relationally because of current or past painful events in their lives. This heartfelt brokenness is the result of grief issues, sexual abuse, divorce, porn addiction, anxiety, adoption/abandonment, verbal & emotional abuse, depression, etc.
Why do bad things happen to innocent or good people? Sinful conduct comes from an unholy heart. Our words and actions reveal our hearts. People who speak evil will do evil. Critical people speak critical words that are emotionally damaging to children. Sin entered the heart of man from the choice to disobey God in the Garden of Eden.
If a person fills their eye-gate and ear-gate with unholy content, their heart, words, and actions will be unholy. This un-holiness bleeds into every relationship beginning with God. This is why God commanded us to love Him with our whole heart, soul, mind and strength. We are to purify ourselves even as He is pure. The Holy Ghost does not force us to be holy. Our words and conduct are by our own choice.
If you are in a marriage that has continual conflict, each person must search his/her own heart. Don’t blame your partner. Ask yourself, “God, are my actions holy? Is my heart clean before you? Am I setting evil, wicked, or worthless things before my eyes?” You must take ownership of your own conduct.
A person who is a porn user is filling his/her heart with the lust of the eye and flesh. This creates a tortured soul because of the broken relationship with God. Harmful anger and friction will flow to others because of this unholy heart.
God’s truth applied to the toxic emotional woundedness is the healing balm that transforms hearts. The devil tries to destroy God’s people with toxic thoughts he plants in the wounded heart. His lies will distort and twist thoughts to the feelings of being hopeless, helpless, unloved, unworthy, unwanted, etc. We must be renewed in the spirit of our mind with God’s truth – my counseling is being a conduit of God’s truth. When we replace toxic thoughts with God’s Word, God’s truth makes us free (John 8:32)!
A person can be saved but walking wounded in spirit. It takes God’s truth and prayer to break the stronghold of negative thinking and be transformed to having the mind of Christ (1Cor. 2:16).
My book: God’s Design for Marriage (soft cover on website or eBook: amazon.com), addresses holy living. It was written from my teaching Marriage Seminars for churches. It is a compact book packed with God’s truth. A holy heart must be in total surrender to God. Put off sin and put on a holy heart through God’s Word and Spirit!
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I love teaching God’s anointed Word for churches/conferences. God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and light to our path!
Carol Clemans provides nationwide teaching for churches plus counseling by phone/Skype (636) 448-012, www.carolclemans.org – read ‘about ministry’ page, 380+ articles, marriage book, teaching products – carol@carolclemans.org. Ministry Ref: Pastor Daniel Batchelor, Dupo, IL.